Reasons to be Cheerful

PlanetPenny has launched a weekly "Reasons to be Cheerful" theme now that the time change darkens our days earlier. I think counting blessings is an excellent idea, so here are three for me:

The ever-present thankfulness for my health and family, including this sweet guy, our Oscar. He came to live with us 2 years ago when he was five years old, and he is a source of joy. Just looking at him makes us smile. Here he is waiting for us at the back door, being careful, of course, not to get too close to the edge. He's afraid of stairs.

The gorgeous autumn colors that continue to delight. This year it feels like the color show has gone on so much longer than other years. Or maybe I'm just appreciating it more. This tree is next to the railroad tracks in our village, and while I waited for a train to pass, I had time to admire the colors and composition. It looks like a wonderful example of pointillism.


That I remembered to order, in time to pack and ship before Sinterklaas, chocoladeletters for my family. The box arrived yesterday.

If you visit PlanetPenny, you'll see links to other people's Reasons to be Cheerful. Just in case you need a lift.

Edited to add: I forgot to say that I learned of PlanetPenny through Mrs. Micawber, who has some beautiful pictures on her site. And fresh snow!

Heard on the stairs

We're headed upstairs to bed.
The new handrails are such a help.
But sometimes there is still coaching required.

Me: Move your hands farther up the handrails before you step up.
G:
Me: Move your hands farther up the handrails before you step up.
G:
Me: At least move your left hand farther up, to the top of the handrail.
G:
Me: Let me guide your hand.
Standing on the stair below him, I try to lift his left hand off the handrail to move it.
G: You're getting mad.
Me: No I'm not.
G: You're getting mad.
Me: No, I'm not.
G: You're getting mad. I can smell it.
Me:

Ode on Our Caregivers

Fair Ones, Young Ones, Old Ones, Passable Ones
Who come into our home to care for us,
Who teach us with their patience, serenity, grace,
Some of whom have come to our shores from shores far away,
Have left their loved ones to care for my loved one,
Whose good humor reigns, or sometimes doesn’t,
Who deal with things pleasant and unpleasant
And with people pleasant and unpleasant:
What brings you to this work?
What other jobs did you consider, before selecting this?

Our experience with people like you is so recent,
Just six months of our journey has been spent in your company.
I had heard of your sort, in good tones and bad,
From others with knowledge and experience.
And from those tales, told around the support group table,
I can only conclude: We have been blessed.
Our encounters have been mostly good, occasionally comical,
And sometimes, oh sometimes, heartrendingly tender.
Why do we deserve your care, your concern?
What have we done to reap the benefit of your company?

When you came to our door for the first time, did you feel a tremor?
Did anxiety play havoc with your pulse?
Or did you come in confidence, knowing that you have the skill and patience
To weather whatever storm you may encounter with us?
Some of you have come with a warm heart, first concerned with your charge,
Yet with room in your heart also for the spouse.
And so you say, “What else can I do to help?” and “Would you like me to…”
And the blank is filled in with many and mundane tasks that normally fall to the wife.
Laundry, dishes, dusting, cleaning spots from carpet, plumping pillows.
Sometimes the mistress says yes, sometimes no. But always gratefully.

Some of you have come with a focus on the job, not the person;
Have interrupted when I attempt to introduce ourselves
To give you an idea of who we are, of what backgrounds we have
In order to give you a frame of reference in which to work.
But you have interrupted with questions about tasks.
That list will come in a moment; may I help you understand us, first? No?
Happily for all concerned, after a few evenings with us,
Other circumstances prevented you from coming back,
And we can hope that your next situation was a better fit for you
And for the person under your care.

O Caregiver Agency! What a valuable service you provide,
And yet, how much angst you have in your power to create!
Last minute changes, communicated moments before the doorbell rings,
That our familiar caregiver won’t be there, and instead, a stranger.
And a seeming reluctance to come out with the real reasons behind the changes,
Which we inadvertently find out from the unwitting caregiver,
Who explains that the other person has a new job (isn’t sick).
Unexplained switches in schedules, which bewilder us as well as the caregiver.
And still, we are grateful for your service, flawed as it sometimes is,
For it has brought us one of the most special people we know.

Our dearest friend, small and gentle, wise and witty,
You are a precious gift in our lives.
You inspire the mistress with your patience, your willingness to say to G,
“I’m sorry,” when it wasn’t your fault but his.
Noted! The mistress attempts to emulate.
You left your family and went far away to work on a kibbutz in Israel
To provide the money for university tuition for your children
When earning enough for them was not possible in your homeland.
Because when you were university age, there was not enough for you to reach your dream.
“What would you have studied,” I ask. “Chemistry, perhaps,” you reply.

We talk, sometimes, about choices and alternatives.
Decisions made, good and bad, and consequences, good and bad.
The law of unintended consequences was on our minds last night.
The university education you provided your children has not only enriched their lives,
It has also enriched the lives of so many more.
Because some of your children chose careers in healthcare
And emigrated to this land, to nurse the sick in hospitals,
Or to provide therapy to those recovering from accident and illness.
The ripples made when you dropped your stones into the water
Continue to spread and spread, reaching out with goodness to so many.

Watching the clock

Today I'm scheduled to pick up an older man (100)
and his much younger girlfriend
(I'm told she's about 80)
to drive them to church.

To do this for the first time
on the weekend daylight saving time ends
is a quadruple threat:

Will I get the time right?

Will they get the time right?

Will our caregiver for Sunday morning
get the time right?

And will her ride (she has no car)
get the time right?

The worst that can happen (I think)
is we all show up an hour early.
That's not so bad.

Spiked hair

Oscar did something last time we were at the cottage

that he has never, ever,
in the two plus years he's lived with us,
done before:

Roll in something yucky.


I had no idea he was rolling with any purpose
other than scratching his back.
He was clearly enjoying himself.

I always am reminded,
when he rolls on his back and his white belly fur flies around,
of surf crashing onto a beach.

But then I could see...

he spiked his hair with it.

*sigh*

He's clean now.

Currents

The leaves tumble and twirl.

A sudden gust whirls them into spirals.


Eddies send them end over end;
brittle, they skitter on pavement.


A momentary pause before the next onslaught.


Tossed in the air,
released from their summer quarters,
at the mercy of each draft,


their dance reveals the invisible.


Edited to add: Emma from silverpebble is having a making winter bloghop.
Really fun to see what people are doing.

Modern fossils

Seen while walking Oscar yesterday.

We have walked over it hundreds of times,
and I've never noticed it before.

When someone has written their name or initials
in fresh concrete in a new sidewalk,
I find it less than appealing.

But this, I find charming.

And it matches one in front of our house
that always delights me.